This post was not planned. It’s not even on my content calendar plan because I assumed we were in 2017 and bullying and gossiping was the thing of the past. Yesterday however, I was late night pinning, going through my smart feed and noticed a post that didn’t sit too well with me. And I haven’t stopped thinking about it since. What do you do when a blogger bashes another blogger?
This is not a typical blog post that you will find on my website. I am not here to sell you anything or share my usual juicy blog post. I am here to spread the news! Stop bullying.. Simple! And if you agree with my post, I want you to share it on Facebook, Twitter, Pinterest, text someone!! Just spread the news as this really has to stop!
Where are these bullying episodes taking place?
First, let me say, I have seen people bring each other down on social media (Facebook and Twitter specifically) and I usually just move on! A recent example of this was when a few other bloggers took to Facebook groups and disrespected Melyssa Griffin for taking down her huge Facebook group! I get that you were upset or disappointed and wanted to express your opinions. Great, you are allowed to do so. But some comments were simply just hurtful. Some professional bloggers went as far as making threats and just saying nasty things about Melyssa’s business agenda! False accusations were put up.
Do you know that bashing another person or business can have a bad implication on them or their business? What if I was a newbie that happened to come across those posts on that very day? I wouldn’t trust Melyssa or any of her work based on what was posted! Everything worked out at the end, no one died because her group was shut down and we all moved on. But this is not about that.
When a blogger bashes another blogger on her blog!
Back to the post I stumbled upon on Pinterest. Well this blogger decided to write a whole blog post about how she felt deceived by this other blogger. The only reason I clicked over to her post was because I thought (even though her Pinterest graphic image was clear on the intent) she was going to put a fun spin to it. NO! I was so wrong.
This blogger started off by saying she wasn’t going to name the blogger or the product. Just by reading the first 2 paragraphs, I knew exactly who she was referring to! (No I won’t link the post on here!- I do not want to promote it in any way).Not only did she review the product, she went on to say how horrible it was, and for the amount she paid, she wanted more. She pretty much begged everyone to stay away from this product and she felt cheated.
I was so shocked. I couldn’t believe what I was reading especially from another blogger. I kept thinking to myself, how would she feel if another person wrote horrible things about her or her products? On the internet!!!
THE DIFFERENT BETWEEN A REVIEW, GIVING YOUR HONEST OPINION AND JUST PLAIN BULLYING
Hear me out, I am not saying that you should not give your honest review and opinion about a product or a service. But they are ways of saying it without hurting someone personally or trashing their hard work. What might not have worked for you, works miracles for the next person. Saying horrible things INTENTIONALLY to bully someone is not right!
Review a product by saying exactly why it didn’t work for you (eg. I am not an advanced blogger and a lot of the points where not applicable to me, or I felt for the money, I would rather have spent it on this because ABC -and move the conversation away). If you are reviewing a product, you could say this product didn’t work for you because the colours where wrong, or it took a while to be delivered but other than that I would have preferred more of this…
In other words, give a positive twist but still explaining why it did not work for YOU! Again, just because it didn’t work out for you doesn’t mean it won’t work for the next person. But this blogger left no room for that. She pretty much wanted us to run away from this product and the blogger by attacking them.
WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN THIS HAPPENS
Typically I just leave things alone and move one. But because it”s happening over and over, I felt like I needed to express my feelings. If you do not like something or a product:
-Try to resolve it with the company
– Ask for your money back
– Review it honestly but not in a bullying kind of way (Be the bigger person)
– Do your research before purchasing
This blogger did say she did a bit of research and relied on the reviews before purchasing. Before I invest in a product, I ask around to non biased people what they really thought. If I get a half great answer and half bad, I contact the person who created the product.
For example- At one point I wanted to purchase Eden Fried’s course on Pinterest, I emailed her and asked her if it would be helpful for me. She honestly told me, I was too advanced for it! Awesome, I kept looking.
Again, I wanted to purchase Michelle’s course on Making Sense of Affiliate marketing, I asked other bloggers why they recommend I make the jump, how long it took them to get results and I was met with great, positive answers that made the purchase choice more easy and comfortable for me.
And they were other products that I bought and I already knew 70% of the recommendations but the other 30% was all new to me and they made a huge difference to my online business and so I still give it a 10 out of 10.
And they were not so good courses and products that I asked for my money back because I was too advanced. I didn’t bash or bully them. I simply acknowledged that it was not a fit for me, but some one that just started blogging yesterday would really need it.
BLOGGERS STOP BASHING OTHER BLOGGERS!
You do not need to be mean, or disrespectful. If some one has a little error on her blog (send them a quick heads up about it), not feeling her vibe? Look away. Don’t like her emails, unsubscribe. Want to give helpful criticism? Go for it! Hate their products or price points, don’t buy it!
WHEN IT’S YOUR TURN!
When it’s your turn to promote your new product, send out that email, grow your email list, DON’T YOU WANT THE SUPPORT? You would want your other friendly bloggers to promote it for you, help you with it, give you an honest feed back (privately or openly) and help each other grow as a community. You will only grow as much as you give out. Don’t be the person that is negative and bashful.
Guess who I am running away from?
-The person that is negative
-The person that has time to bully people openly in public
-The person that is not humble
I will not promote you, I will not support you, I will not add you to my networks or purchase that awesome product that you have because your overall attitude left a bad taste in my mouth.
FOR ALL THE AWESOME SUPPORTERS THAT SUPPORT ME OR HELP OTHER PEOPLE, I THANK YOU!!
PLEASE STOP ONLINE BULLYING, BASHING AND DEFAMATION!
PS. I did let the other blogger know about this post. She took it as a trooper- You can’t please everyone.
And Vice Versa to other bloggers
If someone purchases a product from you or uses your services and they have questions or do not understand something, be helpful. Don’t just push a product or an email pitch and when the deal is done you disappear. Ever heard of repeat clients? No one will be back if you are not helpful!
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